Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Do You Need A New Perspective?

"Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle."
 ~Author unknown

Do You Need A New Perspective?

Genesis 11:29-30 (King James Version)

 29And Abram and Nahor took them wives: the name of Abram's wife was Sarai; and the name of Nahor's wife, Milcah, the daughter of Haran, the father of Milcah, and the father of Iscah.
 30But Sarai was barren; she had no child.

Do you ever get the feeling that you are the only woman who struggles with human-ness? Do you think woman of the Bible had some of the same issues we have today? I know one area they had far worse. Can you imagine your man deciding to take multiple wives?~this wife would take a frying pan to his head.

One of my favorite Bible characters is Sarah. The first time she is mentioned in the Bible is that she was the wife of Abram in the genealogy of Genesis. As you see above~ it  mentions Nahor~ Abram's brother. Nohor's wife was Micah~ the daughter of Haron. Milcah's lineage was mentioned but not Sarah's linage. It could appear that Sarah was a "nobody" in the family compared to Milcah. Then it states that Sarah was barren and she had no child~ ~to add insult to injury. That would be a double negative in my book. However~this is where her story begins.

As  Sarah's story begins to unfold we find out that see was beautiful. So beautiful that her husband thought another man would kill him to take her as his own. She followed her husband into the great adventure of becoming the father of the Hebrew nation. That would make her the "Momma Hen" to the entire Hebrew linage. Wow~what an accomplishment for a "nobody." Yet as we take a look into the life of the beautiful Sarah we see that she did not see herself as the great, beautiful, rich, famous woman that she was. She could never get over the fact that she had a problem~she was barren. 

The Bible records five statements that Sarah made. Each time she states her status as a barren woman with no child. She never got past it! Could it be she never saw herself as the beautiful woman Abram loved and others thought was so beautiful? Could she not see herself as the Lord saw her~a woman of faith?

This can so easily happen to us. What stigma haunts you from the past? It could be that you go through life with the name tag for the world to see that reads~ "Abused," "Unloved," "Abandoned," "Fat," "Ugly," Useless," "Childless," "Divorced~this list could go on and on." Some of these labels we might have picked up by own own choices and some may have been brought on by circumstances out of our control. It really does not matter.  You go through life seeing yourself as the person you first saw ~that person from long ago. It does not matter how God sees you. When we allow ourselves to stay stuck in the past wearing these labels like an old friend ~we are living our life in the darkness ~ seeing only the past.

The problem is that this monkey on your back affects your judgement~even today. Sarah made a horrible decision asking her husband to give her a child by marrying her servant~trying to free herself of the burden she was carrying. Sarah's bad judgement has brought about a lifetime of war and hate. If only she would have had the patience to wait on God for his timing. I am afraid to many of us are making choices driven by the past. A very wise preacher told me once, "It is time to stop letting your past dictate your future."  I know way to many people who want to stay stuck in this past!

Sarah a great woman of faith listed by God in the "Hall of Faith Chapter" ~   and an excellent wife who struggled with worthlessness and insecurity. We need to make it a prayer that God will free us from the past that haunts us and labels us~keeping us from making right choices.  Many times it is our thinking that keeps us in this mindset. People do not even see us the way we think that they do~with those ugly labels from our past. We go around deceiving ourselves acting as a martyr. It is time to get down off the cross~Jesus did that once and for all. God wants us to live a life full of peace and joy.  It does not matter that we have been a Christian for a long time ~we need to be healed by the passionate love of God until his love melts away the shadows of unworthiness we may feel from our past. It really is time to forgive ourselves and bury it under the blood of the cross.

Your feeling loved and accepted and forgiven by Christ is necessary if you want to make the right decisions for your family. It is also necessary to forgive yourself once and for all!  Please do not let your children suffer from poor decisions you make while wearing a badge handed to you as a child or young adult.  Break the chain by finding the love of Jesus.  It is time to let go of the past and get a new perspective!




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